Are you so skittish about damaging a relationship or de-motivating a team member that you don’t give developmental feedback? Who can blame you, really? Everyone wants to be liked, and we all know you get more flies with honey than with vinegar.
However, you aren’t doing anyone any favors if you don’t give feedback. The employee suffers, and in the end so does the whole organization.
I recently spoke with a leader in a company who wanted me to coach a director-level person who had been with the organization for nine years.
As he explained, “Her first manager was a wimp and no one has ever given her any feedback. All of her bad habits just got more ingrained. When she finally came to work for me, I gave her some sorely needed feedback and her response was ‘No one has ever told me that before. It must be you.’
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