Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, say in their book, When Bad Things Happen to Good Marriages, that there are 5 traits of a healthy, life-long marriage: ownership, hope, empathy, forgiveness, and commitment. Here is a summary of each of those characteristics.
1. Ownership: Taking Responsibility
Often, couples believe their problems are the result of the other person’s actions. It’s easy to avoid responsibility for our problems by blaming someone else. But in the long-haul, admitting mistakes and owning up to our part of the problem is the single most powerful predictor of turning something bad into something good. Couples need to realize that it’s not who’s wrong, but what’s wrong that counts.
2. Hope: Believing that Good Ultimately Triumphs
The foundation of hope is belief. We must believe that the kind of marriage we want is possible. Hope keeps love alive. Stop hoping and marriage dies.
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