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Body Language 4 Facial Expressions

The topic of facial expressions is endlessly fascinating. Keeping in mind that all body language is culture specific; still many of the facial expressions are the same no matter what culture is employing them. For example, a child in pain is going to have the same facial expression regardless of where in the world he or she originated.

There are many generalities in facial expressions. For this series, I will key off the Western Cultures to make specific points. Where specific gestures mean different things, I will give some examples to clarify.

There are literally tens of thousands of different facial expressions we use to convey our emotions. It would be impossible to cover them all in one article, but I will lay out some details of the specific parts of the face in my articles over the next several weeks. In this article, I deal with the entire face…

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Body Language 2 The 5 C’s of Body Language

Interpreting the body language of others or ourselves is an art form. If you can do this well, you have an incredible advantage that can help you make better decisions and take more appropriate actions. In this series I will be covering hundreds of typical signals we give out with our body language.

The entire body of work needs to be tempered with what I call the Five C’s of Body Language. These are cautionary areas where we might unwittingly misinterpret some body language we are seeing. Knowing and taking these concepts into account will improve your accuracy of interpretation regardless of the specific body language you are witnessing.

1. Context

You must consider what is going on around the signal, what happened just before, where the person is located, what else is going on, and all other factors.

For example, if I am talking with you and I…

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Body Language 1 – New Series on Body Language

This is the first in a series of articles on the topic of body language. I normally publish my articles on the weekend but may skip a week now and then. I have no way of knowing how many articles will be in this series, but we might guess it will take over 100 weeks to fully explore this rich and vital topic area.

You can benefit from following this series because the ability to accurately interpret body language signals sent by other people (consciously or unconsciously) will give you a significant advantage in every interface. In addition, knowing what signals you are sending with your own body language will sharpen your skill at communicating with others accurately.

I have been studying Body Language for over 40 years, and I am still on a steep learning curve. The topic area is not only endlessly fascinating, it is vital for understanding…

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Learning to bend


The first very cold night of the year here and strong wind and rain expected later today.  Ancient wisdom for dealing with the changing weathers of life: 

All things, the grass as well as the trees,
are tender and soft while alive
When dead, they are withered and dried.

Therefore the stiff and the rigid are companions of death
The gentle and the kind are the companions of life

Lao Tzu

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Body Language 3 – Body Position Tells a Lot

Interpreting body language is an extremely complex science, as we will see in this series. However, we can pick up huge clues as to what is going on simply by observing the position of one’s body in space. Later in the series we will add details of facial expression and gestures, but this article focuses on grasping the big picture first.

We take in a lot of information simply by observing how the person is sitting or standing. For example, I was once meeting a good friend for lunch. We knew each other very well and were meeting to catch up on what was happening for each of us. I entered the restaurant and saw my colleague sitting in a booth with her back to me. She did not see me come in. As I made my way to the table, I said to myself, “Oh dear, Jane is having…

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Positive People: The 3 Emotionally Intelligent Behaviors They Practice Daily

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Engage negativity with the weapons of positivity.

There is simply no magic pill when it comes to becoming a more positive person. Everything behind what they do can be boiled down to one word: mindset.

To become more positive, especially in negative work environments that strip you of your joy and dignity, you have to engage the negative forces that surround you with three weapons of positivity.

1. Develop your self-awareness.

Self-awareness is a weapon used to protect you from yourself and your shortcomings. Remember to first inspect whether you’re the source of negative behavior. For example, are you a gossiper? If so, ask yourself three questions:

  •     How does it make me feel when I spread rumors?
  •     Why do I need to have this feeling?
  •     What does the behavior of talking bad behind someone’s back reveal to others about my own attitude?

This is where a boost…

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பெற்றோர் + ஆசிரியர் = மாணவர் 7

ranjani narayanan

நல்லாசிரியரின் குணங்களைப் பார்த்துக் கொண்டு வருகிறோம். இதோ இன்னும் சில:

ஆசிரியர் மாணவர்களின் வாழ்வில் ஒரு தாக்கத்தை ஏற்படுத்த வேண்டும்.

திரு அப்துல் கலாம் இதற்கு மிக அழகாக தனது வாழ்வில் நடந்த ஒரு சம்பவத்தை உதாரணமாகச் சொல்லுகிறார்.

‘எனக்கு அப்போது பத்து வயது. ஐந்தாம் வகுப்பில் படித்துக் கொண்டிருந்தேன். எனது ஆசிரியர் திரு சிவசுப்பிரமணிய ஐயர். எங்கள் எல்லோருக்கும் அவரது வகுப்பு மிகவும் பிடிக்கும். ஒரு நாள் அவர் பறவை பறக்கும் விதம் பற்றி பாடம் நடத்தினார். ஒரு பறவையின் படத்தை கரும்பலகையின் மேல் வரைந்தார். வால் பகுதி, இறக்கைகள், தலை, உடம்பு என்று ஒவ்வொன்றாக வரைந்து அது எப்படி தன் உடலைத் தூக்கிக்கொண்டு பறக்கிறது;  பறக்கும்போது அது எப்படி தன் பறக்கும் திசையை மாற்றுகிறது, தன் உடம்பை இழுத்துக் கொண்டு எப்படிப் பறக்கிறது என்று விளக்கினார். பத்து, இருபது என்று பறவைகள் சேர்ந்து பறப்பதையும் விளக்கினார்.

கடைசியில் ‘புரிந்ததா?’ என்று கேட்டார். நான் எழுந்திருந்து ‘புரியவில்லை, ஐயா’ என்று சொன்னேன். பல மாணவர்கள் புரியவில்லை என்றனர். அதற்கு அவர் கோபப்படவேயில்லை. ‘இன்று மாலை கடற்கரைக்குச் செல்லலாம்’ என்றார். மாலை மொத்த வகுப்பும் கடற்கரையில் இருந்தது. இனிமையான மாலை வேளை. பெருத்த சத்தத்துடன் அலைகள் பாறைகளின் மீது வந்து மோதுவதை நாங்கள் எல்லோரும் ரசித்துக் கொண்டிருந்தோம். கடற்பறவைகள் பத்து, இருபது என்று சேர்ந்து பறப்பதை ஒரு புதிய ஆர்வத்துடன் பார்த்தோம். எங்கள்…

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